3 Days, 2 Bucket of Tears

Chinese new year is officially over. No need to wear red and bright-coloured clothes all day long, no more cookies indulgence and no more red packets to be collected. It's back to work hard and play less.

During chinese new year, everything said or done has to be auspicious and positive. Negative elements (such as the mourning colour black, arguing or engaging in any acts that causes grieve) are a big no-no because it symbolises a bad start for the new year. So since it's after chinese new year already, I expect to encounter some of this negative elements.

However, I don't expect them to come so soon. I contacted 3 of my very dear friends on three different days in a row and out of them all, 2 cried in sorrow. Although their problems do not affect or make an impact in my daily life, I am disturbed by their problems.

The first friend cried because of relationship problem and the second one because of career. The first friend is born with a silver spoon and is studying abroad but she has just been dumped by her boyfriend without a clue of the cause. My second friend is happily married but she was betrayed by her best friend/colleague and she was accused of a serious fraud.

I was honoured that they are willing to share their problems with me and in some way, I feel blessed that my mind is not bothered by anything major and I still have time for them.

I am sure my second friend will bounce back to her cheerful self very soon because she has her family full support and a job is after all a mode of earning a living only. Although, I don't deny that being betrayed by a close friend is one of the most horrible thing that could happen to someone in life.

However, I am really worried of my first friend because she is so far away in a foreign land and her problem is really a matter of the heart. I know the guy too and no one is to be blamed in this case because neither party made a mistake. When I came to know it, there was so much going on in my mind but I just can't find the right word to console her. I just hope that she can move on real soon and be a better person.

I am not only glad that I am surrounded by friends but I am very happy to be able to share my friends' joy and sorrows.